Thursday, April 2, 2015
Gays and the LDS Church
Sunday, November 23, 2014
The benefits (i.e. blessings) of being Mormon
I don't care what the naysayers say, church is a haven from the cares of daily life. It's nice that once a week I can give my mind a break from what's going on the other six days a week. I usually take naps on Sunday, so my body gets a break, too :)
It's a great way to spend time as a family. It provides a community of friends to call on for help (i.e. for moving, meals for pregnant wife, helping pay for a missionary, etc.) or just fulfill the basic human need for friendship (i.e. people to do fun stuff with).
My wife and I can get free marriage counseling from our pastor. If we're referred to a professional marriage counselor, we can still have that free of charge, courtesy of our congregation (we ourselves contribute to those funds regularly).
The teenagers (including myself when I was one) get to learn practical life skills that are useful. The boys have boy scouts and the girls have young women.
I have the peace of mind that comes from having supplies and knowledge that will see me through a disaster safely. i.e. emergency preparedness.
I care for my family more than I ever would if I hadn't been instructed to. This also includes my ancestors. I likely wouldn't have gotten into genealogy as a hobby if I hadn't been instructed to. But since I'm familiar with my forebears, I know myself better. Their awesome stories are appreciated and not forgotten.
I have easy access to literature (i.e. the Bible, the Book of Mormon, words of living prophets) that gives me solace and answers during genuinely tough life events. And during times of ease, too.
These are the result of the bizarre (unique) beliefs and practices of the Mormons.
These are the benefits (i.e. blessings) of church.
I'm not sure if I'll share these publicly, because these might be trampled on by people who don't appreciate stuff like this.
Ya know what, they can have at it. Their ad hominem attacks that have no basis in intelligent argument can fly. Their rude comments won't alter how awesome church is. At least they'll boost my page views (and therefore my earnings). So the more they toss this around and belittle it, the more money I'll make. Is that what they want?
So thank you, naysayers, for opening my eyes to the positive side of church, and for helping me make money off your negative attitude.
Monday, November 17, 2014
Response to First Vision challenges
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
Response to Book of Mormon challenges
Archeological evidence
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
To my single friends
I ask for your forgiveness as I indulge myself and speak about marriage. Specifically, I want to offer a message of hope to those who feel like they may never get married.
To you I testify that the Lord hasn't forgotten you. He has you graven upon the palms of his hands. He knows what it's like to go
for months without getting asked out or to get rejected again and again.
Remember that the brethren have made it clear that all who are faithful l will be blessed with a spouse in this life or the next. However long the wait is, it will seem like a brief moment. When the Lord makes a promise, it's as good as done.
Here's an important reason not to get down on yourself: I believe that discouragement is one of the tools of the adversary to make us lose faith in the Lord's promises. If you feel like you'll never get married, you might just give up on looking for a spouse altogether.
My favorite example of someone who had to a long time to get married was Elder Oaks' wife. She must have been lovely young lady, but she waited patiently until her 50's. And she married
an apostle. How much worthier of a husband can you have than that?
Now, it might seem easy for me to say that since I'm married. But these thoughts I share with you came to me after 3 years of anxiety and frustration as a an RM itching to get married. So I know what you're feeling.
But when I came the realization that there is always hope for finding a spouse, all of those maddening feelings disappeared. It took another 2 years to find my wife, but,
with the patience that the Lord blessed me with, I felt like I could have waited many more years. But I'm grateful the Lord didn't make me wait :)
Marriage is ordained of God and that it is a commandment. And, like Nephi of old testified, the Lord always prepares a way to fulfill his commandments.
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
Abortion and why I hate it
I have always loved kids, even when I myself was a kid. My mom has a picture of me as a two year-old feeding a bottle to my younger brother while I drank out of my own bottle. I am normally easy going, reserved, introverted. Yet I become very bold and animated when I see children suffering, especially at the hands of adults. I transform. People say, “Kevin, I never imagined you acting that way.”
Speaking up for kids is worth it.
That personality trait of mine is why my wife and I want to be foster parents, and why we love babysitting. That is also why I ardently speak AGAINST the heinous act of abortion. In my opinion, it is nothing short of child abuse and murder.
I present the arguments infavor of abortion that I have heard and counteract it with my own arguments:
Women have the right to decide what to do with their bodies. Well, there are actually a lot of laws that restrict people's freedom as to what to do with their bodies: for example, ingesting alcohol then driving a car. The law restricts what you can do as far as that goes (i.e. it prohibits it) because it causes harm to other people.
And think of this, if a woman has complete liberty over her body, why is prostitution illegal? It's because nobody lives in a vacuum. If a woman decides to engage in that practice, there are other people involved. The law has decided that the woman and others involved would be negatively impacted. Why can't that same logic be applied to abortion?
Further, I ask, why does the mother have the right to decide what to do with her body but the child doesn't have the right to decide what to do with ITS body? The child is connected to the mother, formed from the mother, yet it has a body of its own. Why doesn't it count as a human being with rights?
This leads to my next rebuttal:
The fetus doesn't count as a human being. I hate this argument, because if people agree that the baby isn't even human, then they rationalize that killing it makes it justifiable and less heart wrenching; in other words, that would mean abortion isn't murder. This argument blatantly ignores the fact that a fetus is essentially a developing child. It feels. It lives. It is a life. How can you see a fetus and not marvel at the human child sprouting? That's the truth, and no euphemistic label can change that.
There are humane abortion procedures. Another reason I hate the argument that the fetus isn't human is that it justifies this argument: it makes people believe that abortion can be humane. They reason that if the fetus isn't human, then it doesn't feel, and you don't have to feel guilty for performing an abortion.
Don't kid yourselves: the child (yes, the fetus is a child) feels, much earlier in the pregnancy than you think. Why do you think they shift themselves in the womb? Why do they kick? Stop rationalizing: there's no such thing as a humane abortion.
Even if there was an abortion procedure where the fetus felt nothing, and died quickly and painlessly, it doesn't change how cruel it is. A murder where the victim doesn't feel a thing is still a murder.
We're preventing the child from having a bad life. You don't know that.There are countless instances of people born into all sorts of less-than-ideal circumstances who overcome and succeed. Should we commit genocide against anyone whose future isn't bright? Who lives in challenging circumstances? Why should a child be killed on the assumption that his or her life will be awful?
Life is sweet, and children certainly don't deserve to be deprived of it.
If the parents (or mother, if the father chooses not to be involved) can't afford a child, they should have the option of aborting the pregnancy. Ok, then with that same logic, it would be justifiable for every parent who goes bankrupt to line up their kids and shoot them in the head. Then would you continue to say, "Parents have a right to choose what to do with their own flesh and blood, so I'll look the other way"?
If poverty meant you couldn't have kids, why are there lots of big families in poor countries? It's partially due to lack of contraception, but it's also because such families realize that they can make things work. No matter how big the family is.
Abortion is not the answer.
And do you think that abortion is cheap?
People are going to do it anyway. They might as well legitimize it so that professionals can do it right. This is a huge fallacy. That argument alone is never a good enough reason to not outlaw something.
For example, let's apply this same logic to murder. Murder is illegal, but people do it anyway. Making murder illegal means it more challenging to commit the murder, which makes the murder uglier instead of quick and clean if it were legal. If you can't stand someone, who am I to get in your way? No one should make you deal with that person. Murder being illegal means those who do it have no legitimate recourses. Therefore they have to resort to dirty, sketchy, back alley methods if they want to do it.
Based on the foregoing logic, murders could be performed more efficiently and humanely if we gave professionals the license to do it without intervention from the law. Why does no one make these arguments in favor of legalizing murder? Because we all agree that murder is wrong and that making it difficult is the point of making it illegal!
Just because people will do something anyway doesn't mean it's permissible.
Those mothers have no other option. So putting up the baby for adoption or raising the child on your own isn't an option? There are thousands childless couples who yearn for the opportunity of raising a baby.
In fact, one adoption agency, LDS family services, which my wife and I were hoping to adopt through, no longer provides adoption services. Why? Because a puny number of children are being placed for adoption. Perhaps more mothers are keeping their babies, but it's hard not to believe that abortions are largely to blame for the paltry availability of children to adopt. That's devastating to my wife and me. We WANT kids and too many biological parents are too selfish to provide people like us with that opportunity.
People should be able to have sex without being forced to give birth to a child they don't want. It disgusts me that people want to have abortion based on this argument. I loathe the thought that abortion is another contraceptive. They angrily demand the ability to have all the sex they want, no consequences, no commitment. People who argue in favor of abortion for those reasons are real monsters.
I hate the idea that children should die so adults can have unrestricted sex.
What about the teenage girls that go too far with their boyfriends? I understand that a teenage couple, thinking with their hormones, can get carried away without fully comprehending the consequences of their actions. That happens. They deserve compassion. Most of the time such people don't deserve harsh labels that they often receive. Raising the baby probably would be disastrous for the parents (or just the mother, if the father chooses not to be involved), although even then there are exceptions.
Adoption can literally and figuratively be a life-saver in that circumstance.
But what if the mother doesn't want to go through a pregnancy? Well, do you think abortion is a piece of cake? Do you think killing an unborn child is like a day at the spa? One cannot expect to be pregnant yet have their life completely unaffected by pregnancy.
But what if the mother's life is in danger? Or the pregnancy is a result of rape? I think abortion is justifiable in a handful of rare circumstances: for example, rape, or when the mother's life is in danger. I met a doctor that says that it's rare that a mother and child's life can't be saved, but it happens once in a blue moon. And it's horrible to me to think a woman should be forced to accept a pregnancy thrust upon her by a vile and criminal act. This doesn't necessarily mean that the abortion wouldn't be heart-wrenching for the mother, so she should ponder the decision carefully.
I think it's interesting, though, how I hardly ever hear people use that argument. It seems that more often the people in favor of abortion default to the rhetoric of "A woman has a right to decide what to do with her body." Or "She shouldn't have to have the baby if she doesn't want to."
And again, I ask, why does the mother get to have that choice but not the baby? That baby is a human being unto itself. It has rights, too. The fact that it is innocent and incapable of speaking for itself makes the act of depriving it of its life that much more appalling.
But you can't restrict women like that. Well, the tough truth is that being a mother means sacrificing freedoms and suffering inconveniences. Anyone who has ever raised a child can corroborate that. Pro-life people aren't inconveniencing you. Being a mother is.
I know my comments may be offensive to some, and I accept that. I would rather have people be offended so that more children can live. And like I said, I've always loved kids and am very bold and outspoken when defending them.
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
Immigrants
I feel uncomfortable with all the Canadians running loose in our country. I hate how they steal our jobs, clog up our hospitals, add to our ethnic diversity, and refuse to speak our language. Our European ancestors learned the language of the Native Americans, so why can't they speak American English?
We should round them all up and ship them to Toronto where they all belong.
They're not all from Toronto you say? Well, as far as I'm concerned, anything north of New York is Toronto.
Further, only people who speak the language of the land should live here. So anyone who doesn't speak Navajo, Cherokee, or any of the 300 languages indigenous to North America should leave the continent.
In case you haven't noticed, that was satire. My subtle rebuke of the some things my friends say that I strongly disagree with.
Now I'm going to speak seriously:
As a linguist, it rubs me the wrong way when people demand that immigrants speak only English, demanding that immigrants never speak their mother tongue. I appreciate the linguistic (and cultural) diversity that immigrants bring. After all, how hard did our European ancestors work to learn the Native American languages?
Refusing to allow other languages to be spoken is shutting the doors to a world of insight that can help you learn about your own language.
Besides, lots of immigrants are too old to learn a new language (especially the ones that are 50+). I admit, there are a lot of immigrants who don't learn English who could. The lost opportunities for them not knowing English is a punishment in and of itself. The law does not need to make it worse. Besides, an evaluation of linguistic capabilities is subjective and imperfect, and therefore if people were legally punished for not knowing English, how could it be possible to make a fair punishment for not speaking English? It would be especially cruel to people who are simply incapable of learning English, because of disability, age, or other factors.
Using the law to force people to speak English would be an example of the stick instead of the carrot, backfiring by instilling fear and demotivating people to lean English. The economic realities of the opportunities that come from knowing English are a very juicy carrot that millions of immigrants chase after, motivating them to learn it. And millions of them DO learn it.
Now you may be thinking, "Kevin, the government already requires English proficiency in order to pass the citizenship test." And you'd be right.
I actually think that the English proficiency requirement for citizenship is a good thing because it provides a positive incentive to chase after, instead of a punishment to dread.
But there are people who think that's not enough, and that immigrants should be raked over the coals for not knowing English.
I am against punishing people who don't have English proficiency, but I'm in favor providing positive incentives to motivate them to learn English.
I roll my eyes whenever someone says, "If I was to emigrate to another country, I'd be expected to learn the language there." Ok, then. Put your money where your mouth is, and live in a foreign country (Japan, for example) and learn their language. Oh, and make sure to find a large community of people from the US to associate with. My bet is that many people who claim they would learn the language of the land would give up, either because of laziness, fear, incompetence, or other factors, and would default to English. Many would be diligent, persistent, and competent enough to learn the language. But not all.
Now, say that it was impossible to find a fellow American or anyone who spoke English? Then it's more likely that an American immigrant would learn the language of the land. You find similar phenomena in the US: immigrants whose communities are smaller are more likely to learn English. But if their community is large, it's easy to default to their native language, especially after they get discouraged about their abilities to learn a tough language (come on, Americans, you gotta admit that even you mess up English, so you can't blame foreigners for not always understanding English).
And you people who gripe about immigrants not learning English, how hard have you worked to help such people learn English? You might have more room to talk if you volunteer or work at schools for teaching English as a second language (which I have done; you don't see me complaining). But as long as you're too lazy to help anyone learn English, you have no right to complain about immigrants being too lazy to learn English.This country has always prided itself on being a country of immigrants. It truly has always been a country of immigrants. Let's learn from each other, and be understanding of each other.
I mean, English is derived from a tribal language spoken by the Angles and the Saxons. It could easily have become a rare or extinct language, like other languages in Angle-land. Instead of claiming English to be superior and forcing people to learn it, let's acknowledge that it's equal to other languages, and HELP people who struggle to learn it.
Another thing that people often say about immigrants that I often disagree with is, "They bring crime into our country." There are indeed many immigrants who commit crimes. But does that mean that every group of people that has criminals should be unilaterally blocked from or kicked out of this country? If so, then NO ONE could live here. Every race and ethnicity has criminals.
The key to curbing crime isn't necessarily in keeping people out--although I fully support the government's efforts to kick out and keep out individual immigrants that are PROVEN to be criminals. What exactly is the best way to curb crime in the US is a matter for another debate.
In short, immigrants are people, too. So they deserve to be treated with the golden rule.